I was just talking to W and I told her I understand she is going to follow her path. She has to do her thing. I have to do mine. I slipped and said tho I understand that part its hard for me to not think about not trying to work on us. To which I got. Oh my god there hasn't been anything to work on for 3 months. You need to realize I am going Why can't I just drop this and move on.
Hey Tyler, I am just catching up on your situation.
Actions, not words. Telling her you understand she has to go on her own path isn't the same as just letting her. If you had let her go you wouldn't need to have that conversation.
Sandi's 37 rules should be your bible.
Anyway, don't worry about 'making mistakes'. You are new to this and are still very attached, and in a lot of denial. The reason she shed more tears is because she isn't in denial. She is for real. I also think her comment about you going on a date was more of an indication of where her mind is at (thinking about the next relationship) in comparison to where yours is (clinging to this one).
The key is to getting yourself to a spot where you have become the person you want to be. I don't care if she thinks she 'sees through' your faking it, it's not faking it to win her back...right? This is for you, right?
You're doing one thing absolutely right- posting a lot. Keep it up. I wish I had posted more when I was new.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
