Walkaway Wife/WW/MLC Part 2

[Ancaire]

You have no idea how happy I am to hear that. I wish to be where you are...moving on, and feeling better.

I know I'll get there. This is just hard. I also know you know that.

[jjal]

I really hate NC because I feel like I want to try to connect, but at the same time, it does my heart a load of good. It's been close to 2 weeks since I have responded to an email from her. That said, I slept for 9 solid hours last night.

[pinn]

good for you jjal.. I feel the same way.. NC is hard because you naturally want to connect...but it does the heart and mind so much good! I feel you

[jjal]

It's rough...so lonely, but feeling so normal by now, 6 months down the road.

[Ancaire]

Your W took off a while ago, didn't she? Has she even filed? What is the status on that aspect?

You've clearly dropped the rope. It may be why she's suddenly reaching out. For some unfathomable reason, the WAS can always tell when the LBS drops the rope - and very few of them like it. I wonder why?

[jjal]

She left the first week of July. I have seen her a handful of times since then. She recently asked if I wanted to get a beer and 'catch up' which I didn't respond to.

Do I like this being the new normal? Nope, not in any way. But, it is what I have been dealt and will have to deal with.

She has spoken to an attorney, not sure of the status.

[jjal]

The latest:

She has met with an attorney and wants to move forward just as long as there is an agreement about the house. I guess I am staying here, this is not what I wanted at all so I am not sure if I want to move.

Her words:
"I'm trying to make this as least complicated as possible."

[Ancaire]

"Let's catch up."...and she springs this on you. Nice.

I'm kind of lost for words, j...I'm sorry.

How do you feel about the house? What are the pros and cons of keeping it?

[jjal]

Yep. I knew it was coming anyway.

I want to stay in the house, but every single gift she has given me from Day 1 will be returned to her. That sounds mean, but I have to. And I will likely paint and redecorate. It was too big of a house for just us, 2400 square feet and it feels rather empty, but apartment rent would be almost as much as the house payment.

[jjal]

To be honest, I never responded to her "catch up" statement. I just let it slide.

Odd, when I pull back, she is somewhat chatty and nice. When I lean in and return the niceness, she pulls back and gets cold. Ready to punt and move on. This WW/WAW/MLC crap is for the birds...