New Year..Need new goals

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And boy oh boy after seeing them together it made me both happy and sad. He is clearly in love with her.

Bless you, I know exactly what you mean. It is hard and bittersweet to see couples in love right now. I struggle with this every time I set foot out of the door. I suppose on the other hand it gives us something to aspire to?!

And since mines cell phone has always been my trigger it was nice to see a man that not only doesn't have a password on his phone but also doesn't blink an eye when he walks in the room and she's showing me pictures on his phone.

WOW! How I wish that was my H! Yours sounds like mine in that if I even had to borrow his phone to use because mine was flat or something he would be clearly stressed and looking to see what I was pressing. Why, if there's nothing to hide? Your friend's BF/H sounds wonderful, why can't they all be like him?

I have been doing a lot of reading over the past few days though. And now my X wants to come see the kids tomorrow. I didn't say anything but okay. But wow. What's he has done has really affected my self esteem. And it bothers me that he can go for days without even asking about them...weeks without seeing them but pops up when he wants.

I don't want to keep them from seeing him though hence my saying okay.

Yes, this is tough isn't it. It is so very tempting to stop him but as we are good Mothers to our children we don't. We are the bigger people here and are doing the right thing. We have to because, let's face it, they are not!