Deciding Whether to Separate

[brutus3]

Thanks Cadet for the links. I've been reading through them and they are helpful.

We are sleeping in different rooms. At first I was in the spare room and offering to go into the basement. Around Thanksgiving, I called the guy she was having her first emotional affair with and told him that I knew. After that, I told her I was sleeping in the master bedroom and I've been there since.

I'm thinking a bigger separation might be necessary for both of us. I spoke with an attorney and he said that the courts in my state don't consider abandonment if one of the spouses leaves the home. Most divorces are decided through meditation anyway.

I'll probably be negotiating a separation this week but I'm trying to decide which approach to take: stay in the marital home, get an appt, or agree to buy a 2nd smaller place. Like I said, my income is nil for the next 2 or 3 months. Maybe I should just buy myself more time and just stay in separate rooms, I'm not quite sure yet...