Sandi, all good points. I held off on all of the first reaction stuff I had on Friday. Cancelling insurances and things like that. It was all based on bad emotions. You are right in the levels of A. I don't know where she is in the A, but she is on the path to a full blown A. If everyone at work knows you are married and you can openly hold hands with a coworker, inhibition is definitely going away or gone. Trumpet, I cannot begin to tell you how happy I am for you. I've been keeping up to date with your sitch and I don't know if what worked for you will work for me. Your W was never as cold as mine. Of all of the current threads, Mutatio's W is closest to mine. I read an email from W to my child's teacher that was sent before BD. Just days before. In that email, she referred to me as her husband. I read a recent email to a different teacher. In this one, she referred to me as "Katie's father". I am no longer her husband, in her mind. You are correct when you say that to have that discussion, I need to be ready to walk away. The OM situation has pushed me to that point. I just don't want to rush based on emotion as I've seen my emotions change over the last few days. I do need to settle down and come to definite terms with being able to walk away with no regrets. Unfortunately, I'm almost there. As I asked Vise, would you recommend bringing up the OM to W?
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long
