Gmum, I had to go to see L twice to get advice. The first time I took a friend with me to take notes! Before you go try to write down any questions regarding securing your financial future.
I know you love him and want to save M, but now your thinking cap is the a business one, put your feelings aside and see what you can get.
I ask my L about childcare payment ( would it be affected because OW has kids and as he lives with her, he is supporting them)
I ask about my share of sale of the house with proof of adultery to back it up if D is filed!
I asked about access and how long can I take the kids out of country to see my parents! Please look after yourself and little one. Hugs