Late to the game

[Free]

Hey Vise. Thanks for checking in. You are so right about past BD's making things easier. I'm recovering from the latest one much better than the first.
I did drop the rope, meaning that she can do what she needs to do without it affecting me. I am doing things for me now with NO expectations.
One of her complaints was that I was selfish and self centered. In many ways, I was. Now, I have to be that way for completely different reasons.
In starting over, I slept last night. I hadn't slept more than an hour since Friday.
It's a start, I guess.
I'm still debating if I should confront W about OM, or just carry on with being the best I can be. Or both??
W still has no idea that I know about it. FYI, a friend of mine works in the vicinity of where W works. He called me to tell me that he has seen her with OM in the area and there was hand holding. I went there and saw it for myself. They are definitely not just friends. W continues to go to and from work every day, so I don't know if they see each other outside of work. I'm sure there is extensive texting going on.
If you or anyone else has any advice on this, please let me know. Not sure if I should just sit on it for a while. I don't know if bringing it up would make a difference either way.