GB, It's great to hear from you old friend. I thank you for all of your sage advice this past year. I would never have been able to arrive to this point without your help. Let me know when you are in town so we can grab a beer.
And, you are 100% correct. I do matter. My kids matter. And I have finally begun to truly live out this realization. I feel great and I am excited about my future. I find myself looking at my kids and just smiling all the time.
I wish it were feasible to just restrict contact with my XW to text or email. However, with two young children and a constantly evolving custody schedule due to work, we sometimes need to talk on the phone to sort through the day to day items (kids stuff mainly). I don't mind it though because my XW really has no impact on my wellbeing anymore. But I'd like to remain tactful. It just felt a bit awkward to reply to XW saying she missed me with an "Okay, well have a good night." I don't really have a reason to be adversarial to her now as we are both free to go on about our lives.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15