As always Laurie has posted an awesome post to you! It could apply to most of us actually and I too "see" what is happening to our H's.
Quote: Have you ever been filled with so much shame, guilt and fear that you didn't feel you had a right to something that was better for you, so you accepted less? I know that it is hard to think that he could actually be going through that, but it isn't.
This man is scared. Every step he takes towards you, scares the crap out of him. So he retreats for a bit and then comes back again. He sees a woman that has had terrible things done to her and they were done to her by him. Yet, she has found a way to forgive him and to take him back. Now, wouldn't that kind of blow your mind a little if it were you? Wouldn't you be running a little scared as you are watching your life unravel before your eyes and this person that you did all this stuff too has managed to forgive you and can look at you with love?
Thanks Laurie! Another eye opener for me too! It is always a good idea to put ourselves in our H's shoes. Caly told me this also.
Hang in there Cathy, as T2 said your H is hitting rock bottom, there is no way but up!
