She still insinuates that the problem was between US, and not the OM. So, she still has lots of self-discovery on her part.
She's right to an extent... If there wasn't problems in the R, or if she didn't feel there were problems in the R, then she wouldn't have felt justified in her choice to have an A in the first place, right?
OM is a symptom of the problem, not THE problem. That being said, that symptom can longer be a part of this process if the M is to get healthy.
my W struggled with that right away, too. She asked for a little bit of time because she wanted to find the words to tell him. I know some would give that time, but I chose to stand my ground on it. This has come up a few times since, where W has felt pressured when A questions have come up. "I've done everything on your timeline" is what she says. Fair enough; I asked for it to end right then and there and she did, our C doesn't want us discussing the A outside of sessions anyways.
just be aware of the boundaries you are setting and stick to them. This will be part of that foundation you're building for a new R.
