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Gwen,
Please come here to post your thoughts, views, etc. In the real world, people do tend to get tired of us talking about our situations. All they want is for us to get over it and move on. Unfortunately, when dealing w/someone in crisis, it's up and down and quite frankly, they don't have a clue as to what we are dealing with. It's not a normal separation/divorce. Until they walk a mile in our shoes, they will not understand how much of an emotional rollercoaster that we are on.

For some, detachment/dropping the rope takes longer. It could be that "we" have some or even more contact w/our spouses and that keeps us "hooked" into their drama and we can't detach like we think we should. Others have children, so there is going to be some interaction, which can slow a person down w/detaching and then there are those who disappear and might send us a post card which then gets our hopes up that they are peeking out and might be waking up. It's difficult detaching because we fear that if we do, they might not come back or that we don't care. That's not the case, they do know how we feel about them, but they don't want to admit it.

So, please, the forum is here for you and we want you to know that we do care and we certainly don't get tired of listening.

Also, it's time to start a new thread.

Please take care of yourself.