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I always have a big let down feeling after Christmas. Christmas is this big build up and once the day is over, you look around at all of the decorations, the shredded wrapping paper and shake your head. Retail starts the Christmas season in August in my area and it's too my hype. People need to find a way to get back to the basics and enjoy family and friends and not so much about the gifts, i.e., spending.

I'm glad your son came to assist you w/getting the lights down and dragging the tree to the curb.

As for you h, dropping the rope and/or detachment is not having a lot of contact w/them and living your life. In your case, dropping the rope would mean that he would need to learn to cut checks for himself and just let you know that he's done so, just as well as sending files and his mail to him. You aren't ready to do that, however, it sounds like he looks at you as his mother or business partner and expects you to drop everything and do what he asks.

As for his driver's license. My xh kept the address the same for almost 3 years. The only thing that he changed was his credit card address. His insurance, driver's license, etc. all came to my house. He even gave his new car insurance company my home telephone number and we had been divorced well over 2 years. How do I know this? They called looking for him to discuss his coverage on a new vehicle. The agent was quite surprised when I told her he didn't live there and the residence phone was unlisted/unpublished and to remove it from his account. Many of them keep the home address as a link to their pasts. Others just forget about changing it and then we have to track them down, i.e., like mother's and remind them to change the address. The same goes for the mail. One day, you'll get sick of playing the gatekeeper for his mail and doing other things for him. However, you are getting closer to that time...but you aren't there yet.

I would advise him that you have received his new license. He may not remember it and get pulled over for something and require it. This is one thing that I wouldn't hold out on.

I'm glad you survived the storms. They were pretty nasty out your way.

I, too, noticed that the edit button is gone again. They were having some issues last week and I guess it disappeared.