You need counseling and a lot of support, the biggest mistake you can make is taking her back to easily without any boundaries set in place.
There can be NO CONTACT with the OM. As long as he is in the picture she just gave you a bunch of words that you can not believe, to reel you back in and insure that that she still has back up plans.
The axiom believe none of what they say and half of what they do still applies. Actions not words.
