Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

[Chris82]

I should probably be honest that I had a friend the W works with over the weekend and tell me not to listen to the W when she tells me they are "just friends." I hardly know this person but they had heard through different people about what she was doing to me and had done to me as far as this separation goes and how I've handled it with integrity and felt like I should know.

I thanked her for looking out but I wasn't really interested in updates on her. (Even though, being honest, I am. ha!)

I guess some how the W found out that someone told me and has tried to call the past 2 days. I've done well to ignore it, but when she blows my phone up for an hour and a half nonstop (thats 36 missed calls to be exact), picked up this morning the third time.

She was concerned that I knew they were more than friends (which I already basically knew). I told her it was no big deal, and that I didn't have time to talk about it because I was working and I didn't see the need in discussing it. We were separated, it didn't change anything, and I wouldn't allow it to make me react and alter my emotions. She was shocked and said "I don't really like you making the rules like this." I was blown away. Kind of chuckled, told her I hope she had a nice day, and ended the conversation.

The odd part is, I'm finding that I'm much happier right now without her around. The poison in her life was always wiping off on me. I've finally felt comfortable putting her out of the front of my mind and socializing with people. It feels good to have a little bit of a social life again. Thanks group!