Fo, I will shift my focus back to me and the kids. That seems to go a long way in dropping the rope.
PP, I will work on my appearance more. It does make you feel good, and it does get noticed! XW notices bandaids on my hand, and if I have a cough. I'm sure that she notices if I dress nice. I know others see it too. I'm sure that XW has no clue as to what she has really done. She doesn't do anything without her parents holding her hand now. So she is very dependent on them.
Anc, there is a store called Plato's closet here. It's more geared towards college age kids, but as long as you don't see my gray hairs, I can kinda pull that off. I will check them out soon. I haven't been in there since before BD. We were looking for jeans for XW, didn't really look for me.
Thank you all for taking the time to check on me! Today is my youngest boy's birthday. He's 5 now... goes by fast.
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....