Hi everyone, may I join the conversation? Feeling pretty low right now. W is with OW for the first time since she presumably made her decision. Feeling kind of low, and needing some virtual friends. Thanks. She flew home today but did not come home to me. so so so sad but resolved i guess.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Butterc I feel the same way re getting replies on here. It really helps to know we are not alone in all this. I feel like I am so stuck. When I read of others declarations of improving themselves. All I have been able to do is survive day to day
That's how it's done: One day at a time. And sometimes one hour at a time.
As the LBSs we're doing all the work to improve ourselves. We're not rushing into new relationships that we are ill equipped to handle, we're working to become the best version of ourselves and making sure we're ready for a healthy mature relationship wether that be with our current spouses or someone we have yet to meet.
One day I will look back at DB and be grateful that it happened, cause it has given me an opportunity to be happy. I sure wasn't before, but now I have the skills and tools to get there.
Let's make day to day, even moment to moment, a happy comfortable place to be together. In this virtual world, my "now" is the time spent reading and posting, because so much is relevant to where I am at any given time.Expanding in spirit, I am leaning toward the Zen of Now. And Now is no longer 2015,LOL
Buttercup
Me 50 H 51 M 17 T 20 D16 H EA Feb 2014 BD Sept 2015 H moved out Nov 2015 W Filed D papers Mar 2016
Very insightful Buttercup. Check out this you tube. Go there and type in: Sam Harris: It Is Always Now , pick the one by "trythinkingnow". I play it anytime I need a tuneup.
Up at 3am. Great GAL weekend but then WAS texts last night.I can't even process right now. I'm torn. Trying PMA. Because he's basically set up more boundaries, I'm even more powerless. Expressing my anger is what led to this. Now it's self-recrimination.
I'm not even making sense. How do you all do this?
Buttercup
Me 50 H 51 M 17 T 20 D16 H EA Feb 2014 BD Sept 2015 H moved out Nov 2015 W Filed D papers Mar 2016
Some days it is too hard to make sense of and you go minute to minute to get through. Whatever happened I'm sure there will be someone here who did the exact same thing, with a similar outcome. Self compassion moves you through it faster. Go easy there lovely lady.
