One thing that JB, trumpet, and I all agree on is you could use professional help for your sitch.
From this board we need some vets. 25years would be good I think if she's around.
I am really just moral support. I do agree with what Fo is posting, particularly in creating some space, dropping the rope, etc. And above all, staying away from H's problems.
Time is on your side. One thing I think is important is appreciating what you have. What got me through was this- If I was the kind of guy that couldn't be happy without the marriage I wanted the way I expected it to be...if I looked at the sky and told God, "you gave me life, healthy children, a great career that allows me to provide, hobbies, friends, gifts, and family that loves me...but unless I get the marriage I expect when I want it I think everything stinks!"...if I was that unappreciative and entitled...well, one woman wouldn't change that anyway.
Spend time being appreciative today. The more you focus on that the more you'll be ok, and the more you'll do to add to that list. Eventually the passage of time won't hurt, and that will mean you are dropping the rope, and living your life. That is the first step to breaking this destructive cycle.
Vets- please take the time to get caught up and jump in, thanks!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
