Cali, You've had many ups and downs on this journey of yours. You've fought the good fight and yet, she's still in the oven baking. Who knows just how long it will take for her to bake completely or if she'll remain in the oven the rest of her life.
Cali, the time has come to do what is right for Cali. You need the time and space to help you make some decisions. You can't do that when the MLCer is in your face every day. Her emotional roller coaster is one that carries you on it whether you want to be on it or not.
Sometimes reconciling w/a MLCer that's not fully baked creates more heartache, frustration and disappointment along the way. At times, it can even create resentment and yes, we do want them to hurry up and wake up once we are back under the same roof w/them. We tend to forget that it takes months for them to finally feel good in their own skin.
Cali, I do not normally encourage people to separate, but you've tried and from where I'm sitting, you do need the space and time for yourself. I realize you share a son, but I'm sure the tension runs high in the home and he, too, needs a place of peace, quiet and comfort right now. However, if you do separate once again, you will need to set boundaries and she will need to understand that she must find her way on her own and that you are not going to be there every time she calls for help. Why do I mention this? Because she's still hasn't grown up. She needs to learn to stand on her own two feet and not rely on Cali to come rescue her.
Sit quietly, the answers will come very soon. When they do, you will be able to make a decision that will suit all of your needs.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
