Need support navigating the change in my marriage

[NateG79]

She has to understand and accept the consequences of her actions. WHY would be friends with somebody who cheated, lied, and betrayed you. I know I don't. I've gone NC with my WW, as she needs to understand exactly what divorce will be like. And it won't include me in her life being friends. She doesn't get to fire me as husband, and demote me to friend. It's not what I signed up for. You have to get to a place where you don't need her in your life to be okay. You're not there yet, but hopefully someday soon you will. If it pushes her away, then so be it. Do you want your current marriage back, rags and all? Or would you want something better. You've got to be prepared to let the marriage burn to the ground. You can't repair the one you have, you would have to build a new one on the ashes of the old one.