Julie - I really feel for you. You're in a rotten place with him seemingly satisfied with the status quo. Unless I'm reading you wrong, you're determined to DB, right? The sad truth of that is that patience is required - there is no way around it. I know you know that, but sometimes just hearing it again helps.
I'm not sure I'd place too much emphasis on his wanting to switch the kids for Memorial Day. I don't think it's a statement saying, "We definitely won't have R by then." It's more a "just in case" kind of thing. He's just thinking ahead. It was just a request - nothing to get concerned about.
That is how I would choose to look at it. Any other way, and as you are aware, it could cause anxiety and stress. Why borrow any more concern right now? I am learning that so much of our situation is determined by the way in which we frame things to ourselves. We can look for positives or negatives in any situation...so thankfully, in that regard, we've got quite a bit of control about just what we're going to worry about.
And, as always, we can vent here, and get it off our chests, which is sometimes all we need to do to feel better and let it go. Right?
