Need support navigating the change in my marriage

[G8r]

Thank you Mona52. The gray cloudy weather this weekend has matched my mood. Submitted a request for a referral from ABA for a L. It's hard for me to think about custody and other issues when I rather be married to W.

To whom have you spoken? My W has done some outreach to middle school girls but that was arranged between middle school and college at which she works. There has to be some kind of liaison, perhaps the principal or guidance counselor.

I hear you about rationale. W says my saying I won't be her friend and won't talk to her beyond cordial pleasantries is pushing her towards D. I reminded her (pprobably should have kept my mouth shut) that she said she would resent me for the rest of her life if I forced her to break it off. Funny thing is that I previously suggested that she needed to do that if M was to be saved. She said she would but she would resent me for the rest of her life. I didn't push it. This past Friday I told her she needed to dump the 3rd wheel. After changing subject 2x, she said "Lol, no". Rationale is out the window because what's good for the gander doesn't seem to be good for the goose.