It's all a process Judy, but you're doing it. It helped me a lot to think of a timeline and that my W wasn't ready to come back at the moment. Granted she may never come back, but if she came back too early, we were doomed. We both need the time to grow and heal ourselves. Not just from our M, but from our whole lives.

You've already come so far and made so many positive changes on here. Keep focusing on you. HARD. Everyday can be a step in the quest to heal, grow, learn, and let go. You're doing it. You're going to keep doing it tomorrow. It's a lot, but I know you're up for it. Those of us who have parts of our past we're not proud of can make the most of this pain and turmoil and move WAY past where we ever thought we'd be in our M's.

I see that in you. Stay focused on all of the ways that your life is improving. It is, keep allowing it to.

Big hug,

PP

M 39 W 36
T5 M3
BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day
Served 9/15
D finalized 6/17