WAW - Detaching is the Hardest Thing

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Journaling:

Friday - work then a night out drinking with friends. W offered to drive me to my GAL activity which was nice. W also cooked my meal.

Sat - W and kids went to MIL mid afternoon and stayed overnight.I busied myself with some housework, and chilled watching TV.

Sun - I went cycling with the club all morning 52 miles in 38F - quite cold for these parts. I'm so glad I got motivated and out of bed at 7am to do this GAL. It took some effort but made me feel good.

Mid afternoon W and kids return.

So what of W? W doesn't seem resentful, or disrespectful, just a little distant. She has talked about arrangement for work and the kids for the next week, a little about MIL's health and how being in FIL's home was hard, emotional , and tiring as W was constantly reminded of her loss. Lots of emotional triggers in MIL's home.

Tonight W asked if I want to watch a movie - I said ok.

We are on the countdown to the funeral, after which I fully expect W to initiate the next R talk. I don't want to go there.

My objective is to GAL, have fun with the kids, and to detach as much as possible in an Inhouse separation. W is working late Monday, going out with colleagues on Wed, funeral Thursday, then I fly to Greece next Sunday.
I am not snooping and finding detaching a lot easier.