I love Alanon

A lot of great people and lots of support

Many of them have been through similar issues as us

I don't know your whole situation
but I think we can change our behavior at any time
Your H will see the new behavior over time if you are consistent
these changes are for us-maybe they can encourage friendship with our MLCer
to keep the environment calm especially for the kids
It doesn't mean you have to cater to him..just be kind, upbeat and positive- gal live your life

A DB coach once told me to do what works to achieve the results I am looking for
but would it help your situation to just be detached,cordial and courteous

what are you trying to achieve?


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow