Nate and Julie, I often feel like I need closure as well, I just want an answer and being in limbo is really hard. But then I think, I can wait a little longer for the sake of my marriage and children. If I end up divorced, I don't want to ever wonder "would we have worked it out if I had waited just another 6 months?" I understand at some point this becomes unhealthy. But if you don't want to be divorced, then its in your best interest to be patient and let time reveal what could happen.
