I think that what it is (in my sitch anyway) is that we expect things to be a certain way; we expect our H's to behave a certain way and when they don't it ticks us of.
"My money is mine and your money is yours": this ,too, was the way it was at my house. The difference is that I instituted this rule so that H wouldn't bother me about how much I was helping my parents and siblings. H paid for rent and all the bills and I spent my money. Later we bought a house and I would give H half the mortgage amount and spend/save the rest; he was in charge of all else.
Jeez, no wonder he feels entitled to his paycheck now. Not an excuse though.....
Anyway, enough about me.
Your are once again proving to yourself that you are a strong, independent, self-sufficient woman!
