So sorry for what you have to deal with and beinig the one parent to your kids.
It's good they tell their dad how they feel. Coming from them is better than your H hearing it from them. My girls told their mom and they get no empathy. MLC is narcissist and no empathy. Don't try to understand it. Hug your daughter and remind her that it's not her the cause of this.
Hi IrishM and thank you again for posting. I began to read your situation last night but haven't finished yet. I cannot begin to imagine how you and your girls feel, cannot believe the things your W has said and done, I'm so sorry.
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As for the visits when it's convienient to him. You need to set up a schedule. The kids don't need the disappointment of him not showing up. You don't need to me on call. He left, he needs to know and feel the consequeces of this. He shouldn't be able to come and go as he pleases. Boundaries are necessary for your sanity and the wellbeing of your kids.
This is pretty much the way I'm feeling. Why should he just be able to call in whenever he wants - if he wants that then he should move back home and build a better M with me. I know it's possible, just needs him to wake up and smell the coffee.
Originally Posted By: IrishM
Also, I turned off my phone at night so my W wouldn't wake me up. Sleep is very important, get rested so you can be in a better state of mind.
Hugs to you , it does get better
It's reassuring to know it gets better, thank you. I use my phone as my alarm, that is why he manages to wake me up - maybe I should rethink that and get myself an alarm clock.
