I spent last night reading DR again. Only this time, I read it as the LBH to a WW. The OM revelation still has me reeling, but I'm coming to terms with it as the hours pass. I've decided to take everyone's advice and not make panic decisions. I'm back to square one again. I need to sleep, eat and relax. That is priority #1 right now. No matter how many times I read the statement "DB is for you, not to save your marriage", I didn't see it that way. Expectations were always there. I'm beginning to see it now. Saving your marriage through the techniques shown in DR and on this site is only a POSSIBLE side effect. No guarantees. We need to save ourselves first BEFORE anything positive can happen. It's as simple as that. I am going to start this process over with a new mindset.
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long
