Just realizing that this Friday H will have been home three months. Feeling like things are shifting a little, like H is trying to come closer. H hasn't had a drink in awhile either, well in the last week.
We're in the process of refinancing our house. Almost every day since the papers were submitted H asks if I've heard from the bank. Last night I called the bank to see where things were and we are all set to close, just need to make the appt. H said the days he couldn't and I told the bank we'd call back once we had a date. So I hang up and H says to me "do you still want to do this if I'm not staying?" I then ask if he wants to go through with the refinance and he says I don't care what we do
After a bit H grabs the papers we received in the mail and is reading through them and mentions something about checking into disability/lay off insurance. That his back is ready to go again and that he's getting his results back from his test last Friday and who knows what that could mean.
We had a nice dinner and evening. Went to bed, I was laying a little to close to H I guess because he told me to move away. So he was in a mood.
H hasn't been contributing to the bills for at least the last two months. I asked him last week if he'd be able to help out with household bills and he was SURPRISED that I would ask him such a thing...he said WELL NOT THIS WEEK! Then last night he throws in my face that "I accused him of not helping out with the bills last week" and I said you haven't, last month you didn't either. His response usually is then you can pay my cell phone bill which is usually quite high. Mine is included on the bill, but I rarely make calls so the MAJORITY were/are from his convos with OW.
This is the way my H is with money. His money is his, mine is mine, BUT I buy all the groceries and have been paying the utility bills. He pays his credit cards which are mainly his hunting fishing expenses and thinks he shouldn't have to contribute to the household! I don't get it some days. This was a big part of my problem before he left, financial security and his compulsive buying habits and then thinking I should take care of food, etc. Go figure..I'm venting this morning, need to get it out since I've been holding it in.
This morning H flew out of the house as fast as he could, earlier than usual and didn't take the lunch that I had made either. Too much togetherness these last few days...maybe.
