LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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Reading my daily devotional this morning. It's about Anger and reflecting before responding. This has not been an issue for me since I was a young man but I did realize something. My WXW struggles with this. She gives full vent to her rage. I would often think "how do you allow yourself to get so angry, say and do the things you do in anger?" Well, there are several Proverbs speaking to the wisdom of controlling your anger. This leads me to believe this is common issue in the human race making my WXW not so do different. I'm going to try to be more understanding. Not accepting or excusing but understanding.

The devotional also asked 3 questions about angry I have spent some time reflecting on
1. Why am I angry? I'm angry because she has destroyed our family unit. She chose several other men over me, our marriage and our family. She puts herself before the rest of us.
2. What do I really want? I want a healthy M, healthy W, and my family unit reunited.
3. How do I get what I want? IDK........