Need support navigating the change in my marriage

[Mona52]

G8r,

I agree, go speak to a L. You at least have a shot at 50/50 custody. Dont let anyone tell you it wont work because D would suffer. I know people try and guilt dads saying the children need to sleep in the same bed every night. I am sorry, but that is bull. I have seen dads who get their children weeknights not just weekends and the kids thrive.

About your W saying you hate her... You can tell her next time you do not hate her, but you cannot support her actions. Or you can ignore it. It does not matter what she is thinking right now.

I applaud you trying to entice young ladies into STEM. I am in the Comp Sci field and have offered repeatedly to speak at local grade schools and high schools to the girls. So far no one has invited me, but i'm trying.

I want to give you a word of warning. When it comes to DB'ing, Newton's laws go right out the window! For every action, there is only a bad or worse reaction. You CANT use logic here. Logic will keep you up at night. one plus one does NOT equal 2. With your background, you are going to try and take researched, logical, thought-out steps to fix this. Dont, it wont work. Just work on you, do everything you always wanted. Heck, go visit CERN, the sky is the limit and you have been given the gift of time to go do it.