So sorry for what you have to deal with and beinig the one parent to your kids.
It's good they tell their dad how they feel. Coming from them is better than your H hearing it from them. My girls told their mom and they get no empathy. MLC is narcissist and no empathy. Don't try to understand it. Hug your daughter and remind her that it's not her the cause of this.
As for the visits when it's convienient to him. You need to set up a schedule. The kids don't need the disappointment of him not showing up. You don't need to me on call. He left, he needs to know and feel the consequeces of this. He shouldn't be able to come and go as he pleases. Boundaries are necessary for your sanity and the wellbeing of your kids.
Also, I turned off my phone at night so my W wouldn't wake me up. Sleep is very important, get rested so you can be in a better state of mind.
Hugs to you , it does get better
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
