Go for the list. None of us will ever be perfect.Noone is. Improve yourself for you. But be sure you want each change for you.

I.all strive to change with you.

How did ace test go

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together