H didn't text, call or come round yesterday. I can't say I was surprised. I should think it was some kind of reaction to the texting the day before.
Today, however, he woke me up with a text - which really annoyed me. Here I am, struggling to get enough sleep thanks to him, and then he wakes me up with texts too! He asked me to let him know what time he could come round later and that he'd be asleep until late afternoon (he is on night shift).
I sort of feel like I did well, because I didn't reply until gone 6pm! Previously I have texted after 10 minutes or so and told him that he can come round whenever he likes.
Possibly more MLC stuff - he has grown a beard! He has never had a beard in his life. He even felt the need to tell me that there was nothing in it other than that he just thought he'd see what it was like. Seemed like he was trying to reassure me about it or something. Why?! Yet again his visit consisted of him sitting watching S play on PS4 and H checking his phone regularly throughout. We were eating tea when he came and D was being difficult. She has been becoming more and more difficult about eating the last few weeks - a symptom of all that is going on I think. H, of course, doesn't see any of it. He said something to her about eating it and she had a major meltdown. She was crying and shouted at H that if he knew anything he'd know that she can't eat lately because he's left and that if he wants to be all nicey nicey then why doesn't he just come home, that would be being nice. H looked shocked and for a second he looked like he might cry. She is only 7 and has always been Daddy's little girl. He really is underestimating the damage he is doing to them both. They have been showered with love and affection from both of us their whole lives and he thinks that walking away and withdrawing the major share of his affection isn't going to affect them in any way? Crazy! She went upstairs to play for the remainder of his visit. He didn't make any attempt to go up and see her.
He left saying he would see them tomorrow.
This is an area I could do with help on. His access to the children. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing or what I should do. He is calling all the shots and just says, "See you tomorrow," every time he comes round. I don't know how long this should go on for, him coming round every day when it's convenient for him and then withdrawing for a few days because he's, quote, "Not in the mood, sorry." whenever he feels like it. If I made myself scarce every time he came round I would barely see them for quality time myself!
