Here again after 9 years and struggling 2

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Hi Irish M and thank you for reading my thread and posting. Sorry to hear that you're in this situation for a 2nd time too.

Continue your journey for you and your kids. Your H is missing out big time. It will all hit him one day or he will be searching forever.

Yes, you're right, he is missing out big time. So sad that he cannot seem to see it.

Why should you be in limbo and wait for him to decide your fate. In the end if he decides he wants it all back, it will be you who decides if you want him back. In the meantime you will have grown and changed to be a more complete person and that is where you find your own happiness.

I think I need to repeat this to myself a lot. Why is it that I feel like it is the opposite? You saying it will be for me to decide if I want him back - I wish I could feel like that and truly believe that I have that strength. I feel like I'm waiting for him to decide he wants to come back.

My prayers are with you and all the LBS here and those who are reading these post looking for answers xx hugs oo

Thank you Irish M, your post has really made me think that maybe I should look at things differently.