Oh yes he was/is a charmer. Always makes people feel great about themselves. He will tell you what you want to hear. Different person- different version of the same story (no matter what the story is) It seems like he always struggled to me and the kids first. He wanted to do what he wanted to do. I remember one Halloween when it was just the first two boys. One was just 6 months old but the other was two. Son was so excited for his "first" Halloween. We waited on the porch for daddy to come home and take him trick or treating (cause I was going to put the baby to bed) we waited and waited all dressed up - H was out for drinks after work. Finally a neighbor offered to watch the baby so I could take 2 yr old son around. It was soooooo sad. There are stories like that throughout the years.
