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#2639526 01/06/16 11:02 PM
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Just making first post

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Until we can mourn the past we are doomed to repeat it

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Welcome to the board

Sorry you are here but you will meet some wonderful people here and get some great advice.

The first thing you should do is be sure to read the Divorce Remedy (DR) book by MWD
http://www.mcssl.com/store/mwdtc2014/
http://divorcebusting.com/sample_book_chapters.htm

You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts
(for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support).
Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active,
and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down.
Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come!
Most important - POST!

Get out and Get a Life (GAL).

DETACH.


Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.

Have NO EXPECTATIONS.

Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.

Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.

Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:

I would start with Sandi's Rules
A list of dos and don'ts for the LBS (left behind spouse)
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2553072#Post2553072

Going Dark
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=50956#Post5095

Detachment thread
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2538414#Post2538414

Validation Cheat Sheet: Techniques and tips on how to validate (showing your walk away spouse (WAS) that you recognize and accept his or her opinions as valid, even if you do not agree with them)
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2457566#Post2457566

Boundaries Cheat Sheet
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2536096#Post2536096

Abbreviations
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2553153#Post2553153

For Newcomer LBH with a Wayward Wife by sandi2
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2545554#Post2545554

Resource thread
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...224#Post2578224

Stages of the LBS
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1964990&page=1

Validation
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=191764#Post191764

Pursuit and Distance
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2483574#Post2483574

The Lighthouse Story
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484619#Post2484619

Your H or W is giving you a GIFT.
THE GIFT OF TIME.
USE it wisely.

Knowledge is Power - Sir Francis Bacon


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Thank you Cadet


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Until we can mourn the past we are doomed to repeat it

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Originally Posted By: FOO led
Looking at things quietly. Waiting to get off moderation

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To get off moderation you need to post.
What can you tell us about why you are here so we can try to help you and you can get off of moderation.


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When someone new shows up here there is no way I know who they are, I must make sure they are not spammers or otherwise harmful to the forum.
That is why you are on moderation when you arrive.
I them recommend to the administrator that you be removed from moderation.
Your posts help me to do that.

Hope that helps.


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I understand. No problem Cadet. As you know I keep the rules!

So I am here to discuss FOO related issues, quietly and privately following a request to do so.

It is quite a delicate and sensitive topic and there are a couple of minor things of my own I need to address.

In particular weight loss, as a child I was so very fragile and underweight as a result of illness. That seems to have had an effect on me. My frame is very slight and any excess weight looks poor.

Sadly my body wants to stay big as a means of not becoming a person only a fool would leave. This is something I want to address.

I am afraid a little bit of this.

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Until we can mourn the past we are doomed to repeat it

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Bumping for Mutatio


Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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Hi, I'm here, working around the house, checking in whenever the chore gets tedious. I'm not sure I get it.



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Originally Posted By: mutatio
I'm not sure I get it.

Foo Led would like to have a discussion on this thread about
FOO stuff.

And if that is not clear as MUD, just go with what I am saying.


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Just tell her about your childhood Mu. Why are you so reluctant to forgive yourself?

V- does your body really want to stay big to hide or maybe its your age slowing down your metabolism? I was always thin, could eat anything I wanted and stayed thin until my early 40's, now it seems like every bite I eat goes straight to my waistline. Do you have a similar build as your mother? Did she struggle with weight at your age? Are you eating healthy and getting exercise?

If this is to be a private exchange between Mu and V I am sorry to intervene.


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