Last night went badly. Enjoyed the movie & time out with the family - maybe too much. I was laughing and whispering to the girls about stuff in the movie (explaining some to the 9D), etc. Came home - he was pissy, etc. Said I still didn't get him and that he wished he only took the girls because then they would have had dignity and decorum about it. When I'm there, there's not. I'm not *that* crass, but I *validated*. Then he launched into a dress that 14D was interested in. Long story but it ended up about how I don't understand his likes and what he finds attractive. SO tempted to fire away. But that's because I also found his travel credit card shows that he twice visited a nudie bar in OR. This seems to be going to the next level...part of pathology. So it was bad. Decisions? no.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
