Battles of the sexes?

[Painter]

Zues, I think arranged M can work in cultures where they are the norm and the surrounding community supports it, but I wouldn't want it personally because I was not brought up that way.

And we should have these conversations with prospective partners!

Max, you make a great point. I don't know how I wsould have felt if H had only had a one-night stand.

I'm glad the advice is working for you! I would add that for me, non-sexual affection is what makes me open up to my H. I need to feel that he wants my mind and my soul before I want the physical part of the union. I can have sex, but ML happens when we are connected emotionally first.

So to me, ML is the most special experience, while sex is the basics. It can be fun or it can be just a release, but it's usually more physical than emotional.