Thank you both for your responses. Between the two of you and my L, that makes 3 people asking me to hold off. I don't know if I can get past this or even sure if I want to anymore. Trumpet, when you say to talk to her, do you mean about the discovery? Not sure if I could do that at any time soon. Just the thought of what she is doing makes me sick and angry. To discuss it with her would only make the emotions and feelings worse. She does not know that I am aware of it. Sotto, I waited, thought, and decided to leave yesterday because I knew my reaction was going to be bad if I went home. I feel no different at the moment, yet I have to go home today. If I faked it before, a non-reaction today would be academy award material. You are both correct in saying that now is not the time to make any major decisions. I'm at the 20 hr mark since discovery yesterday. I will take more time to process what I need to do. I am in no rush and I haven't been since BD. That was before OM. In my mind, this changes everything. As they say, the mind is a terrible thing. Ill be heading home soon. I'll do my best to stay calm and cool, but there will be no talkIng to her.
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long
