I do have Divorce Remedy. I read it frequently. I'm great at giving advice to others, and completely hopeless when it comes to me. I'm sure it's because my view is limited from the middle of the storm.
Thank you for the positive encouragement on the Alanon! I need to stop putting it off. I just know when I start going, it's going to stir up a bunch of crap I'd rather keep buried. I went to Alateen as a youngster, so I'm familiar... I need to get IC set up as soon as I can, too. I think it would be best for me not to do one without the other.