A quick recap, Married for 10 years, no children, we're in our early 40's, both Catholic, living in same house.
I have been very upbeat through out this ordeal, always thinking positive and that this will work out positively. I heard her say once that my changes are starting to be noticed but that she still might want to leave. After last week’s counseling session and reading DB and most of DR, I have started to limit/eliminate any ILY comments, not chase her around the house, limit e-mails/phonecons while both are at work to only those that are necessary, etc. I have not discussed reconciliation or our relationship. Ironically, we both eat dinner together and some days, you would never suspect that she filed for D. We actually schedule dinners together during week and on weekends.
Problems started with her being generally “unhappy” or at least noticeable last year. We had a disastrous vacation last year. The Christmas holidays were very somber and I could tell she was depressed. She even said she just wanted to be happy but never identified what the problem(s) was. I have started to identify some of my areas of concern although not verified them much with her. At this point, she will have to see action against them. Time is an ally and a threat. She said she wants to see actions. Everybody tells me patience but it’s killing me.
