Also I want to add. When I was talking to your family and friend I was looking for something to help me with you. It was out of fear and anger. I still get scared. I still get upset sometimes and I'm working to get past that. For the last week I am happier than I have been in almost 3 months because my focus has shifted from what I can do for you to what I can be for my children and myself.
Tyler, that would be great if your wife still wanted to be with you, but she doesn't. It makes you sound like you're coming from a place of weakness and just trying to do whatever you can to make her happy. That will not make you attractive to her. And, the last part of your statement tells her what you're doing, you can't point it out, she has to see it and figure it out for herself or she will think you're just doing it to get he back, then will stop.
Might be better to just say something like....
It sounds like you're feeling hurt and upset that I talked to ___. I didn't realize that it would make you feel that way. I'm sorry if that hurt you.
.....just validate, apologize and move on. Don't keep rehashing it. And don't appear weak or clingy to her, it will not help you
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
