A new way of thinking...

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Ancaire, you have gotten some great advice in this thread and I have even saved a couple of the responses so I can remind myself later! I do agree that you shouldn't even respond to his text at all. He is baiting you and trying to drag you into an arguement so he can tell himself again how this is all your fault because you're being irrational. Don't let him do it! Much better to let him sit there and think about what he's done. Whatever you tell him, he's not going to believe anyway and, in his eyes, you're just going to come off as negative and picking on him because he's looking for reasons to justify his actions and make your marriage problems all YOUR fault instead of his. It's not your fault, but he will have to figure it out on his own time because you will never be able to convince him no matter what you say. Great job with STFU! I'm working on that one myself.