Hi Feyth, I also did the snooping at Xmas cards thing last year - didn't help me! I have to say that I think he looks like the loser just now. Jumped out of one R straight into dating - no time to process or reflect, or heal. I think in the much longer term the person who 'wins' is the one who tried to save the M, didn't date for a while, focused on learning, reflecting and healing before moving healthily into a new R after a period of time.

I've just joined the gym - could you maybe get them to work with you on a programme you would enjoy? I've told my trainer I just want half an hour of moderate exercise to also help me wind down at the end of the working day...

Take care - and it is much too soon to think about dating IMHO. It would be done purely in reaction to what you have seen, and so that you don't want to feel like a loser in comparison to him. Google entanglements and relationships if you want to read further about this.

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus