Late to the game

[trumpet]

Free,

My wife filed on the 7th. She's in an EA. Read up on my sitch if you want.

You're on a divorce-busting website, and now telling us you're going to file. Anger takes a hold of all of us here. The violation you feel is emmense. I get it. I was absolutely nuts the first 24 hours. In crisis mode - steam out of my ears.

I think you need more than a night to think about this. And at least a month before you file.

Mowgli had a similar sitch, wife went very cold, and later was OM, who turned out to be very off-kilter. Your wife might be cold because her conscious can't handle the truth - she did wrong to you and the family. Some overcompensate with affection and sex - sounds like yours did the opposite.

You might not want to save the marriage now, but in a week - you might see the hope that many of us see after a bit of time.

What's a couple days in your life? I know, mental anguish is at an all-time high.

I'm of the opinion that you need to talk to your wife about this, but when you can talk calmly to her. The vets here can probably give you better specifics on how to do that, for maximum effect, if you want to save the marriage.

Please give it some time. You put 22 years into this relationship - would a day a year be enough time to get your feet under you, and then make a call?