I have read Gray's books, Venus and Mars plus the first DB book and am on the second one, Divorce Remedy now. All say the same thing which is very hard, back off. You have no clue how hard this is! I don't really know how serious she is on reconciliation or not and there is no way to tell yet.
The MC has not mentioned the depression word yet. In fact, the sessions I thought went well. The first one was curious and when we got to the end she said to the counselor she wanted a divorce and the counselor got her to see if the counseling would work. Last week after the counselor had independent sessions with us and then got us back to gether for a joint session, he said he wanted to do six more sessions and see how things went. She immediately agreed this time instead of being reluctant.
Indepentently (several weeks ago), she also said she wants to see actions from me, changes. The backing off was the first changes she wanted to see.
I guess this is the first step. Backing-off is so very hard to do as I want to fix our marriage and get us back together. To me, divorce is not an option but how long does it take for her to tell me what her real intentions are?
