Hi Judy,
Agree that it's the guilt. If we pretend that everything is fine and dandy, then they couldn't have hurt us, could they?

I guess the trick here is to thrive despite what they have done to us, without condemning or minimising the hurt and pain they have caused us.

We can be friendly/ civil without being friends?

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.