No, I don't think my H knows about it. But I am easily recognized if someone were to come across my posts. Whatever, guess I have nothing to hide.
Mona, I totally agree. I am THRILLED that I get the privilege to be the one who is there. I wouldn't want to be in my H's shoes. However he is still around enough that he can't be accused of abandoning her, he is there to give her the less healthy food, take her to movies and fun activities and then drop her off with me when she's tired. He does want to take her for overnight visits and all when he has his own place and she is ready. Not really sure what my point is. I guess I'm jealous that he gets to go off and leave me, be with the love of his life AND be a parent. If he was a crappy dad at least I could one up him on that.
Gmum - I'm not too certain his life is going to work out the way you've outlined. He's running off with a woman he's having an affair with - the odds are overwhelmingly not in their favor.
Relationships begun in betrayal aren't what one could call a quality pairing. He's going to be without his D for the majority of the time.
Just be thankful for her sake he is a good dad. The rest of it [censored], I agree - but I don't think it's going to last.
But he dumped me soon after their relationship started, maybe even before it became physical, so I guess it wasn't shrouded in secrecy. Plus they live in different states, so that will keep it fresh. He is so used to traveling for work, so he probably won't really see her a lot less than he did before.
Thanks for your kind words, Mu but had I been a great wife I wouldn't have been in this situation. Unlike other situations I read about here where the LBS was the person bending over backwards to hold it all together, I feel like I was the guiltier party trying hard to push him away. And putting a lot of stress on him. It wasn't all me of course, but I certainly can't deny my part and pretend to be the scorned one.
(((Gmum))) I know exactly how you feel. I don't think your H is going to have an easy time. The OW has her own kids too? Blended families aren't easy. And the OW sounds like she has her own issues to work through.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
And I must say, I doubt very much the OW is the love of his life! Ha, they all must think that when they're in the fog!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Ow has her own kids plus an ex who prob wouldn't let them move to another state, so unless my H moves to her state I guess long term things would be hard for them.
NYGal, maybe you're right. But unlike your W he hasn't wavered at all.
One more thing. I'll bet we all have regrets about how we could have been better partners. I know I do. We just have to learn from all this, so that we are better the next time around. And you know what? The ones who have left us, they need work, too. Especially when there's another person involved, an affair. I read something at the She's a Homewrecker site (tee hee) that said: "Sneaking around required more work than working on the relationship you're already in. For once in your life, please use your brain." I really liked that one.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
HA! But I think that only pertains to the first time he sneaked around on me - she didn't mean anything. This time he had the decency to dump and start divorce proceedings before it turned into a full blown affair.
