You'll have another chance to cuddle, and you're making big changes in a positive direction, so I hope you are giving yourself lots of credit. And I agree with LostLove about baby steps, and that your husband probably sees the changes you are making. Build on it slowly.
By the way, earlier you talked about the sex that he needs and the cuddling that you need. In my marriage, it took a long time to teach my wife to cuddle, but we have that now, and she appreciates it too. (Sex is advanced calculus for now.) I suspect that both of you need sex, and both of you need cuddling, but it takes each of you time to learn to appreciate the other mode.
When I was learning jazz flute, I saw some Wagner on my teacher's piano. I asked him to play it, and I said, "yuck". He told me that until I had really taken the time to learn to appreciate a kind of music, I didn't realy know enough to reject it. He's right - someone who does not understand jazz or renaissance music or chant will not know how to appreciate it.
Words are one useful way of communicating, but if we can only communicate with words and logic, life is very much impoverished. There's a richness to love that goes beyond words, to listening to music together, enjoying a good meal together, spending time together out in the woods, praying together. And cuddling and sex are both especially close to the skin and the heart. They can also be usefully combined.
Jonathan
P.S. I suppose all of these things can be combined. Sex and cuddling out in the woods, a picnic basket containing a gourmet meal and some wine, a woodwind quintet providing background music, and a priest blessing the occasion with a censer ...
